Just a few philosophical thoughts that have been tossing around in my head in recent months.

Banality

I hate words like nice and cute.  To me they are passive words that are thrown around by people who are at best patronising you or at worst just really not engaged or interested in you. 

“You are cute.”…what, like a ferret…

“That’s nice.”…can you stop focusing on yourself for a moment to listen to and validate me?

Self-worth

Why is it difficult for a person to do something they enjoy, whether they do it badly or not, without being criticised for their ability?  People are held back from trying something new because of a fear of failure.  Isn’t failure never starting?  I tell myself and others that I suck because I am beating the people who will always tell me I can’t.

“you are not 18 anymore”

“your time has passed”

“why would you want to do that”

“you should know better”

“that is awful”

“only children do/act/want that”

It is so easy to hide behind “can’t”…it is comfortable and safe.  Stepping out and saying “I can and I will” takes courage but I believe true happiness exists at the end.

Perspective

For every moment that occurs, there is the truth and then the truth as we see it.  Sometimes being right is not important.  Being right is often just lonely.

Forgiveness

Maybe forgiving is divine, because sometimes it is just so hard to do.  Maybe the first level of forgiveness is to forgive myself for being a flawed individual, embracing that and revelling in life.

Sacrifice

There is no sacrifice when you love someone.  (Almost as cheesy as “love means never having to say you’re sorry…”)

Happiness

I think true happiness is looking at your life and saying “this is where I want to be, in this moment, with these people.  I am not wishing my life away in the hope that around the corner it will be better.  Better is now.  I am content.”

Sorry for being so long between blogging…I had a new life to start…